Start A Business. Mind Your Own | A Rant
We need to stop imposing what we want on other people.
I had a conversation with a friend the other day who, in a round about way, suggested that I'm boring.
Yes, I was in bed watching a documentary about Poundland - which is brilliant by the way - but their response of 'Lol, you need a holiday' really upset me. For a number of reasons.
First of all, you need to mind your own business. You're not in a position to tell me what I need because you don't know enough about where I'm at.
Jobs aren't the same as careers. I cannot just abandon ship and let the company replace me. I am the company, at this moment in time. Leave people be.
There is nothing more insulting than 'you know what you need to do?' kind of people.
You can't take directions from people who've never been where you're headed. Also, don't take advice from someone who has never built anything.
One thing that I've learnt is that not everyone is qualified to speak into your life. Not everyone is armed with enough information about you to tell you what you need. Not everyone cares either. That's okay.
My priority right now is to focus. I would love to flit off and drink wine and eat cheese, in Nice. I plan to. Just not right now. Not telling someone your plans is not the same thing as having none.
You know what? I like working. It used to be something that I was ashamed of but now, it's not.
And my new pet hate is when people who've hopped on a plane adopt an elitist attitude because they think that they've lived more than you.
No two people on this planet are the same. Yes, you may have lived in other countries but you can't produce content or negotiate with clients like I can. One isn't better than the other - in fact, it makes our relationships more interesting. If we'd take the time to get our heads from up our backsides and actually be interested in someone other than ourselves.
I absolutely love learning about other people's experiences but I also know myself, my plan and what I'm doing very well.
I have conversations all of the time with people who I think should start that business, write that book or run that marathon. But one thing I've learnt is that people do what they want to, when the time is right for them.
I'm challenging myself to gently encourage the people around me to become bigger people, without coming across as judgemental.
I am following my bliss right now. I can tell you this much: if I were in a foreign country, I'd still be working because that's my heart's desire right now.
After a couple of hours, I realised that that 'friend' probably meant well; it was just their delivery that was off. Or maybe they really do think they're better than me because they live abroad now.
I know this much: you have to be careful who you open up to and share your dreams and plans with. Not everybody 'gets it'. Right now, I'm in a season of deferred gratification and that is so okay with me. I chose this.
Concern yourself less with impressing people who want to impose their wishes on you and focus on what is right for you, however that may look.
In short, do you boo.
Lots of love,